I need to be transparent with you guys for a second; as a writer, I tend to be pretty in touch with my thoughts and I possess the skill to transalte what my mind says into a cohesive piece of work. However, for the longest time I never really understood what it meant to keep in touch with the state of my own mental health; I never understood what it really meant to feel anxiety or feel depression because I would just ignore any signs of them occuring and just write it off as me being extra lazy or not being able to focus much that day. I’ve gotten better at recgonizing when I’m feeling a little extra down on a certain day and I can only go up from there right? The point I’m trying to make is this: the state of our minds and our emotional health will flucutuate; there will be great days but there could also be some not-so-great days. Do I have your attention yet?
In my personal experience at least, I’ve noticed that there are some days where I’ll let my mood slip and become a little more anxious or depressed that day; I won’t want to do anything because my motivation just simply doesn’t exist in those moments. While what I’m about to say may sound like I’m downplaying the severity of these feelings, trust me that’s the last thing I want for you all to take away from my explination and analysis. Okay so, I’ve learned and come to realize that mental health deficencies (for lack of a better term), are all a natural occurence in our minds and bodies; chemicals and hormones being thrown all out of whack resulting in a dramatic change in mood. I’ve also come to understand that there are many triggers that will result in the onset of these feelings that I so wish I could avoid.
Slight tone shift here, but while I and most of my targeted audience are still young (college students), we’re at a certain point where I think most of us are looking for something more. The games are changing a little bit and I believe the most natural thing to do would be to change with them. However, one manuver that gets my anxiety flaring is comparing myself to my peers. I think my actions are justifiable though: I only want the best for the people around me and sometimes I reflect on myself and what I’ve accomplished thus far (maybe sometimes too much.) Here’s the thing though: if you’re really close to these people, they’ll most likely feel the same way towards you and all that you’ve acheived at that certain point. They can’t reflect and make decsions for you though, that’s a you thing. Only the individual can choose what works for them.
Ready for a simple rule that may help: different goals require different paths. I think self-reflection should be more long term; meaning that if our analyses are focused more on what we each want out of life as a whole, than I think we could all spend a bit less time worrying about “how she got that internship” or “how he landed that job” and “I’m just sitting here” blah blah blah.
Our mental health and the way we approach certain situation are all a fact of life. Yeah, we can question these occurences and believe me I’ve tried. However, mental health has become one of those things where searching for an answer will only cause more feelings of anxiety and depression. Simply put, an answer doesn’t exist; not to me at least. If anybody feels as if they have an answer to why we tend to expereince these dispositions please, reach out to me. We could do a collab post.
I’ll leave you all with this: do your own thing and kill it. No matter what your heart desires in terms of satisfaction, do it. If you feel that fulfillment will be reached by following a certain path, take it because only you can make that decision. So, while I might not have understood what it meant to be in touch with my mental health for quite some time, I’m there now. There will be sorrow. Don’t let those days stop you. The worry and angst is only temporary; a simple roadblack on the path towards greatness. That’s what we’re all striving for right?
Don’t be afraid to reach out. If you’re ever looking for some advice or feel that you have advice for me, shoot me an email or send me a DM on social media. I’d love to chat with ya’ll. With that being said, make sure to kill this week! We’ve got this you guys!